…. Well, at least I HOPE it’s the answer…!! 🙂
Folks, for so long there has been that eternal question asked. It may be one of the most asked questions in the world of Personal Development and Wealth Creation!
It’s not quite on the level of “What is the meaning of life” but how are you going to top that? 🙂
The question that I am talking about here is :
“What makes some people enjoy so much more success than others”?
Now I am sure that you ask anyone that question directly and you will get a number of different responses.
” They just work very hard”
” They do the right thing every day”
” They have written goals”
“They are work-a-holics”
“They are just lucky – they are born like that….”
Now, in my not so humble opinion and from having worked with and observe so many people over the last 10 years who have enjoyed differing levels of success, I truly believe that there are a number of differing factors that add to people’s level of success – BUT, there seems to me to be one MAJOR thing that underpins all of it.
So lets take it from the top. There are things that are going to contribute to your success that we can all agree on that would contribute to your success, right?
But this is where it goes a LOT deeper, in my opinion….
Why is it that there are people who can do these things and still not meet with what society would call success?
Okay, from what I have seen, I honestly believe that it comes down to the human activities and behaviour are not just done on a cognitive basis ( ie we all know what is good or bad for us – but we still do things that are bad for us) but successful people have force of habit of continuously doing what is the right thing to do to make them successful – they know this on an EMOTIONAL basis!
If a human being knows something from their emotions, they will do it naturally. It will be a habit. They don’t even have to think about it. It’s in their DNA – not just something they practice from their brains because they know they should do it.
To put this into a lay example, lets say you are a smoker. A 40 a day kinda guy or gal.
You know that smoking is not good for you. You know this on a cognitive basis so if anyone asks you “Is smoking good for you?” You would know the answer would be “No”. But then why would you still do it (and we ALL indulge in things that are not good for us somewhere along the line)
Now imagine you go for your yearly medical and your doctor tells you that you have lung disease and unless you stop, you only have 6 months to live!
I bet your life just changed. All of the dreams of seeing your children getting married and spending quality time with your future grandchildren have just gone up in a plume of smoke. No longer are you overly concerned if your local sports team is going to win their division or when you are you going to get your DVD back from “that neighbour”. You are staring down the barrel of possibly not seeing too much after the next 6 months.
All because you were smoking? Doing something that you KNEW wasn’t good for you?
Now I don’t know about you but I am pretty sure, I would have no problems NOT lighting up again. For one reason : I have now been hit with so much emotional pain that I would NEVER even be tempted to look in the direction of a cigarette.
This folks, is a pretty brutal way of describing the difference between knowing something on a cognitive basis as opposed to a emotional basis – and you can see the difference.
Now for the clincher. It’s my opinion that successful people do the right things that MAKE them successful but the reason they do those things is because they HAVE to. It’s in their nature.
Now for the £54 million question : How do you operate from an emotional level instead of a cognitive one?
In my opinion, there are some people who are genetically predisposed to being successful. Yes, it can be something you are born with. The same as you could be born as a good athlete or an outgoing person but I believe that be maybe a 5% advantage at most. I also believe that successful behaviour can be conditioned into someones emotions, over time with consistent reminders and positive conditioning.
I believe that a lot of what society would call “successful people” start initially from a place of severe pain. There was something that happened to them that had an extreme impact on them on an emotional level. Now, when something traumatic happens to someone, energy is released in the form of emotion. That energy needs somewhere to go. It needs to be represented one way or the other and it gets channeled. It can be channeled into good things or bad thing – depending where the individuals focuses lay.
The thing is, when someone focuses their energy into a particular area and start doing something with so much intensity off the back of that pain and in such a strong physical state and then they get a reaction from it – one that is positive to them – this can then lead to force of habit and of course, if a certain activity becomes a habit, you are going to get a consistent outcome.
That force of habit that made us smoke and gave us lung disease was quickly broken by the pain of potentially what will happen if we continue to smoke…
I am convinced that knowing something on a cognitive basis is a world apart from knowing something on a emotional basis – as emotions always dictate our behaviour!
Here’s to your Health, Wealth and Happiness.
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