I started to close down and started pushing those people close to me away. Why is it that, when we are in pain we always hurt those closest to us and do things that we end up regretting….?
I thought that perhaps I wasn’t working hard enough so I started working harder. That didn’t work. In hindsight I guess that the thought process that reading Rich Dad, Poor Dad had put into my mind was the truth that I didn’t want to hear and I was slowly coming to the realisation that I wasn’t moving fast enough forward in the job I was in and honestly, could not see myself spending the next 34 years in a job where I was being dictated too as far as how much I earned, how many holidays I had, what I had to do, what I could contribute to others around me and forever just remain a cog in a bigger wheel…
It was at about this time that I stumbled across “The 7 habits of highly effective people” by Stephen Covey. This was like a light switch coming on. All of the stuff that this guy was talking about made perfect sense. He spoke about all these things that opened up a whole new world to me. I also found out about personal development, the ability to develop and grow myself as a human being. To be able to focus on areas that I needed to grow in, in order to have a successful, full and happy life.That was the JUST the start, but the start that I needed. I started reading learning and studying everything from successful relationships, emotional intelligence and understanding, Wealth Creation, Biography’s of successful people, books on health, business skills and so on… I figured that it was going to be MUCH better and less painful to learn from other people’s mistakes than making more of my own.
From there, I went to learn to trade the markets, whilst I was still working in the City too. I would get up at 5am in the morning, be in the gym by 6am, be in the office by 8am, leave by 5.30 pm, back home by 6pm and work on my trading till the markets closed, then straight to bed.
Two years later, I decided that I wanted to leave the City to start building other businesses. I remember a mate of mine saying to me “You’re crazy to leave the salary that you’re on for no guarantee’s, mate!” Possibly I was BUT the thing was that the frustration, monotony and defined outcome of working in a job that I didn’t really love and wasn’t serving people was much more scary than the unknown of building businesses and going it alone. I think that the “certainty of the known was a lot more scary than the possibilities of the unknown”.
I made a promise to myself that if everything went to Hell in a hand basket and I lost everything, then I was prepared to go back to where it all began and start again, never breathing a word of the loss or blaming my circumstances on anyone and anything else but myself. In reality, I was pretty sure that I could have just gone back to the City if I failed, but I was prepared to go back to the construction sites and nightclubs if I needed too….
Three and a half years down the line, whilst I am nowhere near where I want to be, I honestly believe that I am on the right course. I feel very congruent with the path ahead and with that degree of certainty comes a huge amount of peace. I have people around me who are some of the best at what they do in Business, Trading, Investment, Personal Development and Property in the UK and Europe and I am making an impact in supporting my clients moving forward. Above all I feel that I am adding value to other people’s lives. And what is life for, if it’s not for that?
On reflection of what I have written here, I am aware that I am laying it “out there” at the risk of public scrutiny that is so easy in this information and social media age that we live in. The thing is, I know a lot of you who are reading this are on your own “journey” where you are striving for bigger and better things. If my story can help just one person to keep believing and trusting in what they believe possible, then it would have been worth it.
For those of you who are aiming REALLY high and really striving for goals, the best guidance I can give you is to believe that it really doesn’t matter where you have come from or how many challenges you have had to overcome to get this far. I have seen people from all different financial background, different nationalities, different upbringings, different education and different past experiences become successful. I have also seen people who have had every advantage in the world, lose everything and amount to nothing. Your biology, or your history is NEVER your destiny – but what you believe you’re capable of, dictates everything about your future. As Henry Ford once said “If you think you can or you think you can’t either way, you’re right!”
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